思い込み。知ってるつもり。

人生、生活、仕事、恋愛、これら日常茶飯事（恋愛は別？）なことほど陥りやすい。思い込み。知ってるつもり。

自分が今までに勉強したことや、教えられたこと、学んだことは案外もろくも崩れ去ることがある。いままでこうだと思っていたことは、全くの逆だった、と。

それは、とても受け入れがたいものになる。記憶の畑にはすでに別の作物が植わっていて、そこに新しい作物の種を撒くのは難しい。一度さら地にしなければ、新しい種は成長しない。

しかし、その新しい考え方の種さえも確かなものとは言えない。その考え方が正しいとか、間違っているとかは人によっても変わるし、時によっても変わる。それはいつ変わるか予想もできない。

常識に囚われないとは、どういう思考回路の畑でいればできるのだろうか。また信念という生き物はどう育てたらよいのだろうか。

今日、ぼかし肥料を販売している会社の社長さんが訪問してくれて、ブルーベリーやぼかしについて話をする機会があった。

社長さんはいろいろな農家を回り、いろいろな話を聞いて回っている。知識人でもなく、実践者でもない人なのだが、とにかくいろいろな人の話を聞いておられる方だ。

その方の話を聞くと、自分が知っていたようで、知らなかったことをズバズバ言われる。自分が知らなかっただけに本当かどうか疑いたくなるが、筋は通っており言い返すことはできない。

木は枝を切られるとどうなるか、そこに着く実はどんな実になるか。そもそも植物は元気で、枝を切られても再生できるのか。どれだけ根は伸びているのか・・・

教科書には載っていない、植物（生き物）の見方。これもまた、人の話。

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